It's a measurement problem
This month, I have been working with the teachers on identity/edge/veils and how they act as filters. In this philosophy, we see ourselves as worlds within worlds. Each world or container not only holds us, but also filters communication in both directions. This filtering affects how we receive communication, as well as how our communication is broadcast or sent to another.
During a recent conversation with Tim Grantham, I happened to ask him a question. His lighthearted reply was, "I always get that wrong." Of course, he and I both knew he's not always wrong, but what Tim described would actually be an ideal situation. If we know how we distort our communication, we can apply an interpreter to understand how the filter is affecting what we are sending or receiving. In Tim’s case, if he were always wrong, then he could simply reverse the communication and be accurate.
Interpretation is rarely that straightforward, but it is important that we, as healers, clearly communicate with our clients. Ultimately, we hope to use these filters to help our clients understand their own distortion. The problem is that, instead of always getting something wrong, most of us are hit and miss with our interpretation of how our filters both serve and distort, which brings me to the title of this month's article: It's a measurement problem.
How do we approach this problem? The first step is honesty. If we are not honest, we cannot even begin attempting to see these veils. For example, I recently received feedback that I am "charismatic." My reaction was one of immediate disdain, because I interpret this word as a negative. It is most important to me that behind who I am is a depth that is tangible to those with whom I interact. If the people who had given me this feedback had said, "You have presence with great contact," I would have been honored. But somehow I heard a different message and reacted negatively.
My bias was obvious, and the first step on my interpretive journey was not to ignore or reject the feedback because I didn’t like it, but to honestly admit to myself that I had reacted. Only then could I move toward understanding by asking the questions that would lead to awareness. This is the next step for each of us, to ask as many questions as we can in order to understand the landscape of the veil and then to see if we can find a way to move the communication to a purity that would not normally be there.
In my case, the people who were giving me the feedback were not telling me that my charisma was bad, just that they perceived it and that it affected them. So, once again, I had to look at how I affect people, even when I have no intention of doing so. But if I am honest with myself, my greatest hope as a healer is that I be able to affect people so that they can clearly see themselves. So it is time for me to leave my denial behind and see clearly that I affect people I encounter. Now what?
As you can see, this very simple two-step journey is not easy. First, I need to be honest with myself, then second, I need to ask hundreds if not thousands of questions about myself. Yes, I could fall into a hole anywhere along the way, but if I want to move toward truth, I must apply this simple filter hundreds of times a day. Will my work ever be done? Hopefully not! Perhaps with each question I learn how to measure more accurately what is really happening versus what I think is happening.
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